How to Avoid Losing High School Friends in Your 20’s


As we enter our twenties we are bombarded with tons of propaganda about how we are going to lose all of our high school friends. We are told that those relationships will fail because we will grow apart or something about us changes. While some of that can be true, the real reason those relationships don’t last is because we don’t put in the necessary effort.

Every relationship takes work, friendships are no different. I can honestly say that I am guilty of not putting forth the necessary effort.Throughout my life the friends that I’ve had can be categorized by certain chapters. Rarely having any of those friends played a major role in a multiple chapters. My friends from elementary at this point are simply a faint memory, but most of my friends from high school merely exist on the yearbook pages of my mind.

Its not because I think they are not important or that I don’t cherish those memories. We didn’t “grow apart”; despite whatever has changed in our life the core of who we are has remained the same. Its because after we went our separate ways no one ever made the effort to continue the friendship. As the years go by and more time passes it seems like the window of opportunity to reach out closes. Eventually those friendships become something of the past.

Lately, as I have been aiming to get back to happy, I have spent some time reflecting on some of my most cherished moments. None of those times would have happened without the presence of friends. This got me thinking, I should really reach out to an old friend. So I did just that.

It had been years since we had really spoken to each other. Sure, we are Facebook friends and occasionally we will like each other’s status, but it had been at least 7-8 years since we really talked. In that time a lot has changed. We have both matured and our personalities have evolved, but the core of who we are remains the same. Its fascinating how quickly we were able to fall back into the rhythm of genuine friendly conversation. It felt so good to around someone so familiar.

So you want to know how to avoid losing your friends from high school?

The answer is simple, just make an effort to keep in contact with them. No matter where life will take you never allow the doors on your friendships to completely close. But if you are like me and you let 8 years has past, I encourage you to reach out. You will be surprised how rewarding it feels to reconnect with old friends.

Finding New Music Makes Me Happy

I have really enjoyed reading about what makes all of you happy on Facebook. Its so great to see the diversity of the answers. Some people are happy when they hear a certain song or when they are around friends and family. There are no two answers that are exactly the same.

I find that what makes me happy, isn’t a certain object or person but a distinctive moment. Its that moment when you discover something new and immediately fall in love. Specifically, when I find a new artist or song that I love. I’ll never forget the moment I discovered the group Sam and Ruby my freshman year in college. I had signed up to work the Tin Pan Alley Music Festival specifically at The Basement, a small venue in Nashville. A week before the show I decided to Google some of the artist that would be performing. First on the list was Sam and Ruby. I found there Myspace page (myspace was still popular back then) and heard the song The Here and the Now for the first time.

I was instantly obsessed. I just remember feeling so much joy and eager to hear more of their music. That same day I bought their EP and played it non-stop. Seriously y’all, I was totally geeking out over them. I’m sure my roommate Jillian was sick of hearing me play and talk about Sam and Ruby.

The joy I feel when I discover new music is a feeling I never want to lose. Witnessing the talent and creativity that artist put into their work truly inspires me.

Here are just a few of my current new musical obsessions

Jordan Rakei

Alex Isley

Ari Lennox

Who are some of the new artist that you are currently listening to? Comment below!

P.S. Don’t forget the Getting Back to Happy giveaway!! You have until May 6th at 6pm to enter.

Why Being a Teacher is NOT the Answer to My Employment Woes

Unsolicited career advice is something that every unemployed individual encounters. Very seldom is the advice anything profound or even useful. Countless times I have been asked, “have you thought about teaching” or “why don’t you substitute teach”. Literally, I want to scream every single time I hear someone ask me that question, but instead I hold back the urge to roll my eyes to no return and simply say, “I’m not sure teaching is the right path for me”. However, even with that statement said people still try to encourage me to teach.

I may be in need of a job but trust and believe teaching is not the answer. I have made a short list of the 5 reasons being a teacher is NOT the answer to my employment woes.

1. I Don’t Want To
Its really that simple. I don’t want to teach.

2. Kids are Evil
Ok, maybe evil is a bit harsh, but you have to admit there are some seriously wicked kids out there. Have you seen the behavior of kids these days? The bullying and violence in schools is out of control. It takes a pretty strong person to handle the Denis the Menaces and the Bébé’s Kids of this new millennium . Seriously though, grade school was not a joyous event for me. I hated it and I’m sure it hated me. Why would I ever willing to go back to that torture?

3. Teaching is a God Given Skill that I Don’t Possess
I may not want to be a teacher but I really hope we never underestimate their importance. Teaching is an important skill set many of us don’t possess. There is a special craft to this profession. Just because you are smart doesn’t mean you will be a great teacher. I have had some teachers that were experts in their designated subject but had NO earthly idea how to convey that knowledge to a group of students. A great teacher is someone who can relate to young minds, is patient, can inspire, and most of all love their job. I honestly don’t believe I have the patience to be that nurturing teacher.

4. I’m Not Emotionally Equipped
A teacher’s job doesn’t only entail helping kids learn how to count or read. They are key influential figures in a child’s life. Teacher’s are supposed to be someone a kid can trust and talk to about any problems they may have. Also they have to have the ability to recognize if a kid is in need of help or counselling. Out of the teacher’s I have talked to most of them have encountered some very sad situations; from seeing students that come from abusive homes,ones that can’t afford to eat lunch, and those who have undiagnosed learning disabilities. I don’t know how teachers don’t go home and cry every night, especially when they know sometimes there is very little they can do to help a child. I know I am not emotionally equipped to handle those kinds of situations.

5. I Don’t Want To
Yes, this was also the #1 reason but this point needs to be emphasized. Confucius once said, “Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.” I’d be a fool not to follow his advice. Teachers have a very important role in society, a role that I shouldn’t be trusted to fill.

Confessions of a Dial- Up User

Yes, in true late bloomer fashion, its 2014 and I am still using dial up internet. I’m talking the ridiculously slow 45 kbps type of dial up. The one that makes that awful nail screeching connection sound. And to top it off, I don’t live in BFE where dial up is my only option, it’s purely my choice.

You are probably wondering why would I choose to live in the dark ages, well there are 4 specific reasons.

1. I’m Too Cheap to Upgrade
It would probably make life easier to upgrade to a faster service, but that would also mean I have to spend more money. Until high speed internet becomes competitive with my current monthly $10.99 internet bill, I just don’t see myself doling out more dough. I mean there is free wifi almost every where I go, so what’s the point.

2. I Have Commitment Issues
Almost every high speed ISP requires some sort of contract, especially if you want an affordable rate. I feel like right now my life is to unpredictable to be tied down by an internet contract. I have heard horror stories of people that relocated and had tons of trouble trying to transfer or cancel service. Let’s not even talk about the number of fees that comes with a change in service. Sometimes you are better off just continuing to pay for a service you’re no longer using.

3. I Use The Internet on My Phone 95% of the Time
This is the real reason I still have dial-up internet. I use my phone for everything. Most of my browsing happens on my phone. Pretty much all of my social media activity happens on my phone. All of my Youtube and Netflix watching happens on my phone. Plus my phone is 5.6 pounds lighter than my laptop. Not to mention wayyyy more portable. There is no reason to pay for high speed internet at home when I’m already paying for unlimited data on my phone. Whenever I need to do something on my laptop at home that requires high speed internet I just turn on my phone’s trusty hotspot. For everything else dial-up works just fine.

4. Dial-Up is Dependable
Yes, dial-up is slow but it’s also dependable. I remember my senior year in college there was a nasty storm with tornado warnings that knocked the cable & internet service on campus the entire night and I had a major strategic management assignment due to blackboard by midnight. While some other students risked their lives to travel down the street to Panera for internet, my lack of a vehicle and a M.I.A roommate saved me from a desperate act of stupidity. This was a time before cell phone hotspots were a thing. I was pretty much S.O.L until I remembered all I needed was a telephone line to have the world wide web would at my fingertips. I unhooked the telephone cord from the phone we never used and plugged it into my computer. Within minutes I was able to upload my assignment to blackboard.

The Liebster Award

The Floundering was nominated for an award!!! I know crazy right. I am so honored that Jackie at Indecisively Blogging (she’s a fellow awkward girl, you must check her out), nominated me for the Liebster Award.

I had no idea what a Liebster Award was but I’m pretty excited about it. After some Googling, (I Google everything, well more like Yahoo everything) I found out that this is a cool way for you all to get know me plus check out some of my new favorite blogs.


Sounds like fun, right?! Well lets get to it. Below are the rules I had to follow:

Liebster Award Rules

-11 facts about yourself
-Answer the 11 questions given to you by the person who nominated you
-Nominate 11 new bloggers and set 11 questions for them to answer.

11 Facts about Me

  1. My favorite fruit is green grapes, the more sour the better
  2. I’m a Texan but I rarely say y’all
  3. I wanted to be an Opera Singer when I grew up, then I changed my mind
  4. I wanted to be Alanis Morrisette when I grew up, yep true story
  5. I wanted to marry Tevin Campbell
  6. Later I demoted Tevin to bff and replaced him with AJ McLean
  7. I’m obsessed with the show History Detectives on PBS
  8. I watch Antique Roadshow every Monday night
  9. I watch This Old House every Saturday morning
  10. I love PBS (obviously)
  11. When I was 3 I ask my mom to change my name to Amy cause it only had 3 letters.

Jackie’s Questions

1. What is your most embarrassing moment?

I feel like I have had so many embarrassing moments in my life but the one I haven’t been able to live down occurred the day I got my sorority bid. Like any other freshman I decided to take a nap after my last class of the day. When suddenly I was awaken by the noise of loud singing. I ignored it at first but as the sound got closer I had to see what was up. Wrapped in my comforter , groggily I peaked outside my door only to see 40+ girls singing and clapping. At first I was shocked and confused then I realized I looked a hot mess in front of a pose of perky sorority girls. In efforts to quickly regroup, I tried to slightly close the door a tad just so I could drop the blanket and wipe any gunk out of my eyes (gross I know). My intention was to play it off like I was reaching for a pen with out closing the door all the way. But see this was the problem, I live in a 100 year old dorm and when the windows in the room were open it created this weird suction effect. Not only did the door close in their face it slammed so incredibly hard the walls shook a little. If I was pale enough to turn bright red I would have been the same color as Elmo. When I opened the door the look on their face was priceless. I’m surprised they didn’t snatch their bid back and walk away.

2. If you had to have the same thing for dinner every night for the rest of your life, what would you want that dinner to be?

Crunchy Tacos

3. If you could invite one celebrity over for dinner, who would that be? Why?

Pink; Anyone who knows me knows I’m obsessed with Pink. We would laugh and have a great conversation. We would talk about empowering women, baby Willow and her tattoos, then she would perform a kick butt aerial routine. 

4. What is your favorite movie?

Love and Basketball

5. What are your top 3 guilty pleasures?

Ok don’t tell anyone but they are, the movie Glitter, Ke$ha, and Wasabi Mayo

6. What is the most embarrassing song on your iPod?

See You Again- Miley Cyrus

7. If your life had a theme song, what would it be?
Ahhh this is the hardest question ever I have 2 Cuz I Can by Pink and No Reason at All by Jonathan Reid Gealt sung by Katie Thompson

8. If you had the chance to be a contestant on a game show, which game show would you pick?
Press Your Luck- No Wammys No Wammys!

9. What is your favorite ice cream flavor?
Cookie’s and Cream!

10. What is your favorite book?
32 Candles- Its a crazy story about a late bloomers revenge against her hometown bullies but things don’t quite turn out as planned.

11. What websites do you visit most frequently?

Pinterest– I’m obsessed

ASOS– Love their Clothes

Apartment Therapy– One day I will be a professional DIY’er

 Blogs I Nominate 

It’s been hard to find blogs that I read that haven’t been nominated for a Liebster Award already. So my 11 is more like 6. Gosh I’m such a rebel!

  1. Ears Like a Hawke
  2. Julielle Sears
  3. Honeysuckle and Lace
  4. Maybe I’m Amazed 
  5. Sweatpants and a Tiara
  6.  A Geek Tragedy

Questions for the Nominated Blogs

  1. What’s your favorite PBS show?
  2. If you could go any where in the world, where would you go and why?
  3. Crunchy Tacos or Soft Tacos?
  4. How did you come up with the title of your blog?
  5. Would you rather be weird or normal? Why?
  6. What’s the last show your binged watched?
  7. Backstreet Boys or N’Sync?
  8. What the last concert you went to?
  9. Big City or Small town?
  10. What clubs/organizations were you in during college?
  11. What’s your favorite magazine?